Airport Drama

While waiting for our return flight at the lovely Charleston International Airport, the lights went out. Fifteen seconds later, the generator kicked in, providing partial lighting. Moments later, the attendant at our gate asked if anyone was missing a black backpack. It was resting on a chair, unattended, not 10 feet from us. He announced again, for the owner of the black backpack to claim the bag. He said, if the person didn’t claim the bag that he would call the authorities, to which I said loudly and clearly, “Call them!”  My mind had immediately reverted to the Boston Marathon bomber incident and I had little confidence in the Charleston based TSA who had just made me throw away my small container of unopened Chobani yogurt while they entirely missed the two bottles of liquid insect repellant in my husband’s bag that he was willing to risk being confiscated if they found them rather than check his bag.

At the gate, the  supervisor walked over to the bag and saw that there was no identification on it. My husband whispered to me, “Now that was brave”. To which I responded that perhaps we should move away from it. He didn’t budge. I looked around and saw that no one else that was in close proximity to the unattended bag moved either. I looked at my husband and said something to the effect that this is what denial looks like, plain and simple. No one wants to believe that anything dangerous could be in that backpack.

Admittedly, I felt a bit of discomfort or maybe embarrassment when I grabbed my own backpack and leaving my stubborn husband behind, I moved to another seating area some 500 feet away until the bag was removed.

I learned something about human nature. I learned that some of us are risk takers and will defiantly face danger. Others of us refuse to admit to the danger: the deniers. Some care more about peer pressure and will abandon their own good judgment to not want to appear frightened . And then others like me, will err on the side of caution and gravitate to safety, not giving a damn what others think and remembering the times when people used bombs in backpacks to kill innocent people. I just never thought of myself as being in that kind of minority.  I often quote Proverbs 22:3 to myself in my self-parenting (and I quoted it to the children when they were younger).  It reads, “A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished.”  The New International version says, “The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.”

In the end, it all turned out fine.  The bag was removed without blowing up, everyone was safe, the blackout persisted and actually saved me from purchasing yet another unnecessary souvenir from the beautiful gift shop that was forced to close when the lights went out (I was there shopping), and our plane took off on time even with the blackout.  Gotta love the Charleston International Airport.

Preparing for Retirement

When I was 15 years old, I took my first official payroll job stocking shelves at the local Woolworth Department Store in Van Nuys, California.  I had to take the bus to get there and I hated the job, but loved the money.  Thankfully, I have spent the bulk of my working years loving my job and enjoying the money.  Yet eventually, even this aspect of my life will transition to a new life: retirement.  And loving retirement is not a foregone conclusion. Continue reading “Preparing for Retirement”

Where is the Love?

Wednesday night my husband asked if I would accompany him to watch the new “Equalizer 2” movie.  We couldn’t recall the first “Equalizer” that  starred my favorite actor, Denzel Washington, so we found it On Demand and watched it. Thirty minutes into the movie, I was feeling physically sick as it became clear that Denzel was going to do battle to free a young Russian woman who was being trafficked for sex in this country.  I admit that I have always struggled with man’s inhumanity. Good must always do battle with evil; I just struggle with why there is so much evil.  And the problem seems to be worsening. Continue reading “Where is the Love?”

Masters of Deception

I watched a clip of a Trump rally this week and realized that we have to be on guard more than ever for lies, deflections, exaggerations, scapegoating, red-herrings and straw man arguments.  It doesn’t just come from Trump but from his media supporters.  How do we combat this constant barrage of unfair and unethical argumentation? Continue reading “Masters of Deception”

Calling All Patriots

For a minute, I wanted to set aside the American flag because Donald Trump was wrapping himself in it.  I wanted to take a knee during the National Anthem because he demands that I stand.  But then I thought to myself, “Hell no!”  I am not going to cede my American values and the aspiration of justice and freedom for all to an immoral, ignorant, liar, and want-a-be dictator like Donald Trump.  He’s not the patriot, I am.  And unless our collective voices become louder and more demanding than his, we are going to lose our country. Continue reading “Calling All Patriots”

My Annoying Type A Personality

Over the years I’ve taken many different personality tests.  I’ve taken them for career exploration, teams, a course, work groups, leadership training, and personal interest.  They all confirm what those around me already know: I’m primarily a type A, driver, achiever, task oriented person.  Add to that my Virgo perfectionism and you have a recipe for an obnoxious presence.  Admittedly, my personality is at times annoying to people who are far more laid back, warm, and fun-loving.  I’m always trying to moderate or tone down my strong inclination to get things done and done perfectly, but it isn’t easy. Continue reading “My Annoying Type A Personality”

Fighting Trump Fatigue

I am fighting a horrific case of what I call, “Trump Fatigue”.  It’s that urge to curse, throw something, or escape to my happy place every time I hear his voice or hear about another of his lies or some other ill-informed decision he’s made.  Trump Fatigue is a disease.  For me, it manifests itself with my heart racing, a pit in my stomach, and the desire to lash out.  It’s the feel of my blood pressure rising and a feeling of frustration born out of a sense of helplessness and disbelief that too many Americans are complicit in his behavior. Continue reading “Fighting Trump Fatigue”

My Daughter’s Mental Illness

Yesterday was my beautiful daughter, Kimberly Joy’s birthday. It is hard to believe that my second child, born on June 2, 1982, after only four hours of back labor is a college graduate, married, and employed 36 year old woman.  It has been a challenging road to get here and perhaps we missed all the small warning signs that something was different in her brain chemistry until she was in college and had her first break in 2003. Continue reading “My Daughter’s Mental Illness”

The Megan Markle Effect

For most of my adult life I have lived and worked in predominately white sections of Southern California.  Although California is known for its diversity, it is like the rest of the world where neighborhoods are segregated along racial, ethnic or religious lines.  As an adult, I chose to break out of segregation and to integrate as my own contribution to ending prejudice in the world. There are upsides to choosing to live this way, but there are also some challenges.  This week I’m living with what I call the  “Megan Markle Effect”. Continue reading “The Megan Markle Effect”