Every now and then I come across one of those frustrating videos where average Americans are interviewed on basic issues. Most people look like they failed to learn anything in school, especially basic biology. When it comes to the issue of abortion, it seems like too many Americans abandon all reasoning and decide the issue based on their emotions or someone’s interpretation of a few Bible verses.
I love babies. I’ve had three of them. I’ve never had an abortion that I’m aware of. And I’ve never counseled nor advised anyone to have one. But I’m not against all abortions, even some by choice. Abortions happen naturally and more frequently than many people realize. And yes, I am a Christian. But I’m also not stupid. My interpretation of the Bible leads me to believe that the human body is knitted together in the womb but that actual life of a living soul begins with breath or perhaps the ability to breathe. Many people are either completely unaware or choose to ignore the biological reality that in nature only 25-30% of fertilized human eggs result in the birth of a baby. Most fertilized eggs are naturally lost before a woman even realizes she is pregnant. Others are loss early in pregnancy for a variety of natural malfunctions within the embryo itself or within the womb. To the purest religious pro-life advocate, I argue that their reasoning makes God the biggest abortionist of all!
I am most annoyed by the people who continue to argue that life begins at conception. Some are even saying that it begins with man’s sperm, calling it “life matter”. I heard a woman on camera claim with confidence that a heartbeat exists at the moment of conception. What we are experiencing is a proliferation of misinformation or willful ignorance and it is infuriating, especially when these people are pushing our government legislators to pass abortion bans nationwide. Presently, 17 states have granted “personhood” to fetuses, giving them the same legal status as born people. Making laws based on erroneous and deeply flawed information that involves the lives of people is dangerous.
Imagine a world where people refuse to believe germs exist because they can’t see them? Or imagine someone still claiming that the world is flat because they have seen a map? That’s how infuriating this whole abortion debate feels to me. People are trying to force their mythology of when life begins onto the entire population as though pregnancy and giving birth are without consequence to the pregnant woman. Sometimes a pregnancy is not viable and if it continues both the fetus and the mother will die. An ectopic pregnancy is just one case in point. It’s when a fertilized eggs implants and grows outside the uterus. Other times, a fetus may not be viable because of an extreme malformation. Furthermore, to pretend that all pregnancies are without complications and risks is naive and dangerous for women.
I have two daughters. One tried to get pregnant for many years and finally gave birth to a beautiful baby boy at the age of 41. She had numerous complications throughout her pregnancy, in delivery, and even postpartum. I was terrified we might lose the baby at some points and lose her at others. My other daughter has suffered through multiple miscarriages (one at 15 weeks) and is now going through the IVF process with donated eggs that were fertilized with her husband’s sperm. She has four remaining frozen embryos since the first embryo failed to implant. We are hoping and praying that this process results in a healthy son or daughter and a healthy mother to nurture him or her.
I know many pro-lifers believe the frozen embryos are already people with rights, but I don’t know any living people who can be frozen for years and then thawed out to continue living. A good friend’s daughter-in-law just gave birth to a daughter who was a donated embryo that had been frozen for six years. Some religious nuts online had the audacity to claim that the child doesn’t have a soul. We are truly living in weird times.
My point is this. I am pro-choice because I don’t believe life begins at conception nor with a heartbeat. I believe it begins with breath or viability. Up to that point, I believe a woman should definitely be able to decide whether or not she wants to endure the health risks or life disruption to bring another person into the world. I know personally that sometimes things go very wrong during the pregnancy. In my case, I had to endure major surgery after the birth of my son. Sometimes it is necessary for a doctor to advise an abortion to save the life of the mother. I think that too, should be a no-brainer in the law. But with fetal personhood, legislators are choosing the fetus over the mother who might have other children at home. Isn’t the mother a person too? Why is the life of a fetus who isn’t viable on its own, more valuable than the woman who is nurturing it? In many cases, both will die as a result of denying a medically necessary abortion.
All of us on the pro-choice side should be crystal clear that no one is advocating for late term abortions nor ridiculous post-birth abortions. I’ve watched OBGYNs testify before Congress that a late term abortion occurs only when something terribly wrong has occurred. Killing a baby after it’s born is called murder and those who do that are already prosecuted for murder. What we do know is happening is that babies who were deemed not viable are being carried to term and dying shortly after birth. And worse, some anti-vaccine mothers are rejecting the vitamin K injections only to watch their otherwise healthy newborns die of a preventable brain-bleed. The anti-science crowd will kill millions if we don’t stop them.
The pro-life side argues based on emotion and ill-fitting Bible verses, not science, not medicine, not biology and certainly not logic. It is up to reasonable people to fight this nonsense before more women are forced to risk their health or future to give birth, while others needlessly die, and still others are wrongly prosecuted for a miscarriage they had no control over. Others have been arrested and charged for still births. Without consent or even patient knowledge, hospitals routinely test pregnant women for illegal drug use and report positive results to child protective services or the police. A handful of women have been wrongly reported because they tested positive after eating an everything bagel (which contain poppy seeds). While we care about the health of the unborn child, are these pregnant women being offered the medical and psychological care they deserve or are they simply being criminalized?
Doctors and biologists and reasonable women must make stronger efforts to educate legislators and the public about pregnancy before more women find themselves in a precarious situation. Already, OBGYNs are refusing to practice in certain states and maternity wards are closing, further endangering the lives of pregnant women. It is up to us to vote for knowledgeable legislators who have the health and welfare of women in mind. If a woman doesn’t believe in abortion, she doesn’t have to have one. But forcing a religious belief on everyone through laws, goes against our basic freedom of religion and our rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
I’m waiting for the lawsuits that argue that these abortion bans violate our civil rights. I’m waiting for the lawsuits surrounding the wrongful deaths or permanent health damage to pregnant women denied healthcare. I’m waiting for the lawsuits that seek justice for women falsely accused of causing a miscarriage or still birth. We have to fight back in the courts and in the court of public opinion on this issue for anything to change. No one wants to return to the days of back alleys and coat hangers. But that’s where we are headed if we don’t take a stand against the misinformation surrounding abortion.
