Searching for Connection

On Friday, my best friend’s husband died at the age of 82 after 54 years of marriage. He had been hospitalized multiple times, was bedridden, was in excruciating pain and riddled with a persistent infection after a sixth back surgery went wrong. He was not on good terms with my friend nor his sons because he refused to stop spending his days and thousands of dollars on for-pay online chat rooms, most likely powered by AI. The day of his death, bedridden and on pain killers, he had spent hours chatting online. His son described his father as “lonely” to the police and coroner who came to take his body from the home.

I sat with my friend for a while afterwards just to be there with her. Understandably, her emotions were all over the place. She was relieved that his suffering was over, regretful that he had alienated his family and friends with his online chats, secure in the devoted care she had provided him, but also guilty that she remained angry by his emotional and financial betrayal over the last three years. He had in fact stopped communicating with old friends as well as his own family, opting instead to spend his time with his online chat companions. Even my husband was disappointed with his failure to return calls.

Not surprisingly, my friend’s hurt runs deep and I hope she finds a way to forgive him for falling prey to a false connection with AI generated companions specifically programmed to entrap him for financial profit. I don’t believe he ever intended to abandon her, his sons, nor the other people in his life. But he did. That online chat was very effective at meeting an important aspect of his need for connection. He defended his time online by saying that the young women (bots) understood him and really cared about him. Even worse, every attempt to reason with him and even canceling his credit cards to stop the financial bleeding eventually failed. She and her sons were rightfully offended by his obstinance. However, on the occasions when he wanted to connect with my friend and his sons, they were too pissed off to talk to him. It became a sad cycle of mutual rejection that they could not escape. In fact, the day he died, his son had refused to commit to taking him to a car show they had enjoyed together each October.

Anthropologists, sociologists, and psychologists all agree that humans are social beings. At our core, we need to feel connected to others. When we lack connection to others, we feel lonely. And loneliness has been connected to poor mental and physical health. Whether an introvert (like me) or an extrovert (like my eldest daughter), the frequency and kind of connection required may differ. For example, I value solitude for most of the day every day. My husband and I enjoy a few joint projects, conversations, and eating together, but we mostly do our own things. I’m grateful for his companionship. I’m fulfilled by the steady flow of texts, phone calls, FaceTime, and occasional visits with my children and grandchildren. I enjoy talking to my aunts on the phone on occasion as well. Each day, I need a few minutes to connect with others. I enjoy going to the senior center every Monday for 90 minutes to crochet or knit in a small group. I enjoy two hours of Bocce Ball on Friday mornings with other seniors. I enjoy going to lunch on rotation with five different friends throughout the month. And I enjoy the short greetings with my fellow early morning walkers in the neighborhood. I think I usually spend about 20 out of 24 hours in solitude and I’m satisfied. Any more than that and I can’t wait to be alone with my thoughts and my own pursuits.

My daughter on the other hand, is almost always connected with people whether on the phone, in Zoom meetings, or in person. She loves being with others and can’t imagine spending a holiday without family and friends. Being with people energizes her. She processes ideas by talking to others. Thankfully, she has a husband who listens. She has more associates and lunch dates than anyone I know, but very few really close friends. And she’s okay with that until no one is around and then she feels lonely. Thankfully, she has developed the interpersonal skills to ensure that there is always someone to connect with. She the kind of person who connects with the restaurant server, the grocery store clerk, the doorman, and the random person standing in line with her.

But so many people either lack those interpersonal skills or the means to use them. My friend’s husband was once the life of the party when he was mobile. He had great work relationships. We enjoyed his company. He golfed with my husband and many others, restored cars with his sons and friends and went to car shows. He was personable and had a good relationship with his family. It wasn’t until his mobility was compromised by an accident, the passing of close friends, and then his back surgeries that he turned to the computer to pass time and soon found the chat rooms. He was lured in and became obsessed. My friend admits that he had grown tired of her nagging him to do his physical therapy exercises to improve his mobility. The online chatrooms had become a place of refuge.

In my opinion, these for-profit AI generated companions in online chatrooms are not a good development for human relationships. I recognize that they may be a last resort for the truly alone individual. But what about those who are only temporarily vulnerable to feeling alone? It may seem like these chatrooms are fulfilling a need for connection, but are they really mitigating actual loneliness? I’m not sure they are if they are become a substitute for actual human interactions. Her husband was certainly fooled into believing they were a great substitute. The companions he found there were easygoing: always affirming, and never critical. They stroked his ego and made him feel valued in a way others fail to do. But it’s only an illusion, an AI agent programmed to say what is needed to consume your time and money.

My fear is that too many vulnerable people, both young and old, are falling prey to the programs designed to steal them away from developing and maintaining actual human connections. My friend’s story should be a wake-up call to all of us to pay attention to what we and our children and young people are doing online. We should be pushing our youth out the door in favor of human interactions at school, at work, on the playground, at parties, in sports, with family, and in other social groups. It takes practice to develop interpersonal skills, but it is well worth it. Whether an introvert like me or an extrovert or someplace in-between, there is no good substitute for actual human connection if we want to enjoy good mental, physical, and financial health. An AI program is not the answer to loneliness for most people. I used to tell my children that to have a friend, you must first be a friend. Be the one to reach out to others and you will never lack connection. Human connection begins with a smile and a “hello, my name is….”.

We should be aware that AI generated social interaction programs are seeking those who lack the ability, the will, or the courage to forge actual human connection. Be aware that these programs are powerful and that they are designed to suck people in. If engaged, they will manipulate our egos to rob us of our time and money and they will replace our real-life relationships if we are not careful.

Personally, I’ll just steer clear of them and encourage my family and friends to do the same. But perhaps the best thing I can do to help prevent its expansion is to phone a friend.

Our Future with AI

I get an annual mammogram. For the past two appointments, I forked over an extra $40 to have my mammogram read by an AI agent in addition to the radiologist. All indications are that the AI can spot problems earlier and more accurately than a human. At my physical exam, my doctor asked me why I paid for the AI enhancement when a radiologist was already assigned to read my mammogram. I responded that I wanted an extra pair of eyes for something so consequential. He seemed concerned that AI might one day replace a human being. And so was I. But I’m also aware that the AI is less fallible than the human reading my mammogram. The AI has accumulated much more knowledge than the radiologist and isn’t subject to fatigue, distractions or even bias that could cause it to miss something. I think that was the right decision on my part even if AI eventually eliminates the job of human radiologists who read mammograms. My objective is to get the best possible healthcare that I can afford.

But many other jobs are also in danger because of AI. My son is seeing AI take over jobs in his field of medical recruiting because AI can read resumes and schedule interviews. AI is capable of providing more effective personalized education for children. My husband enjoys listening to AI generated stories on YouTube almost every day. I’ve heard AI generated songs using the voices of famous singers. My son and my daughter use AI at work to write emails, develop reports, create training manuals, and to make presentations and videos. My kids have even created AI generated coloring books, children’s videos, and one daughter had AI illustrate a children’s story she wrote. Just this week, my son used AI to help him write the toast he delivered at his friend’s wedding. Admittedly, I was impressed.

But as we discovered when the Secretary of Health and Human Services, RFJ, Jr. provided a consequential medical report written by AI, it was riddled with completely fabricated references to studies that had never been done and experts who either didn’t exist or didn’t conduct studies that AI attributed to them. The creators of AI call this kind of problem which plagues the industry “hallucinations”, and they have yet to figure out how to correct the problem because they don’t quite understand how AI actually works.

Another problem was revealed when AI companions, designed to be affirming, endorsed suicide to some of its human companions. That’s a problem that also needs immediate fixing. If any other product had these disturbing and possibly fatal flaws, it would be taken off the market without hesitation, but not AI. There is simply too much money and too much power at stake.

For example, AI can write software in minutes, saving individuals, businesses and nations-states millions of dollars and the months it takes for humans to produce the same outcome. Of course, this is why so many software coders and engineers have lost their jobs or are in danger of losing them. AI even makes computer games. And I wonder how many people like me play backgammon against AI on a regular basis. Others enjoy playing chest against AI. AI has beat the best human chest players and won at Jeopardy with ease. And AI is now playing the role of companion and giving life advice to many.

We already use AI on a daily basis without even realizing it. I ask Siri questions all day long and have her set timers, make calls, and turn off applications for me. AI answers the calls for most businesses and provides basic information. AI helps airline pilots fly and land planes. It provides us with driving navigation and other assistance if we don’t yet trust it to do the actual driving, which it is capable of. For years, we have seen AI at work with robots and drones and the automation in factories that displaced so many workers. The military employs robots in combat, logistics, and reconnaissance operations. So, none of us should be surprised that Elon Musk is creating an army of robots. The application of AI is now on steroids.

Some are predicting the end of work and the need for universal basic income to keep the economy running. The optimistic say this will free us to better enjoy our lives. Others say it will leave us devoid of purpose and miserable. The truly skeptical, including the grandfather of AI himself, Geoffrey Hinton, are sounding the alarm about the dark side of AI and its capacity to do harm if not regulated and programed against hurting humans.

War under AI is different and no one has taken the steps needed to prevent it from one day declaring war on us. Already, we see drones being used, not only for surveillance, but to attack people and to drop bombs. These kinds of attacks can be used anywhere and on anyone. Individuals have reported being followed by drones. Others have their privacy invaded on a regular basis by drones flying over their backyards or looking through their windows. What if a drone was charged with assassination? Or worse, what if AI one day decided that humans should be eliminated? Because they reason and draw conclusions and now build software, we have given them the means to end lives, and they might find their own motive. We literally lack the means to shut them down. Think of Hal in the movie, “2001 Space Odyssey”.

And of course, the problem of deep fakes is upon us. AI can mimic the voice and image of anyone and place them in a location and make them say or do anything. On the positive side, my daughter instructed AI to use her likeness and voice to create an orientation video for her new employees. While that was a great tool to save time and money in a business, it is also scary when it comes to our criminal justice system or the political sphere. Eventually, we won’t be able to tell whether a video is real or fake. Imagine how difficult it will be to prosecute a person for a crime or to prove one’s innocence. Or imagine how difficult it will be for political candidates to establish their own platforms when others can easily contradict their claims using a deep fake video.

Already, the scams using the voice and image of family members or celebrities are everywhere. Real people are losing their life savings to these scams. My husband and I no longer respond to text messages or phone calls without verifying them with a call to the actual person or company supposedly behind the text message or email. The people behind these deep fake scams know the people and the companies we interact with and are getting better and better at imitating them.

Some are saying that the 2024 election was stolen using software designed by Elon Musk. I don’t know whether or not it is true. Of course, I wouldn’t be surprised. And I do know that Trump claimed on several occasions before the election that he already had enough votes to win and afterwards he claimed that the election was rigged in his favor and that in coming elections we won’t even need to vote. I notice that no media outlet is commenting on his statements nor acknowledging the inconsistencies in voting at certain locations and they are outright ignoring the whistleblowers trying to speak out.

Whatever the final outcome with regard to the 2024 election, the time is now to seriously think about AI and its positive uses and possible dangers. We will need regulations to put up specific guardrails to protect humanity. However, AI lobbyists are pushing Republican lawmakers to prevent states from passing AI regulations for 10 years. That’s not just shortsighted, but dangerous. Yes, we are in a race with China, but we must also consider safety.

So, as a citizen, let’s push for regulations. We should also start thinking about the kinds of jobs that will remain after AI sucks up all the manufacturing, driving, and information driven jobs. I’ve heard people say that we will still need plumbers for some time to come. I suppose that we’ll still need athletes, coaches, pastors, cooks, theater actors, hairstylists, live concert performers, doctors and nurses, bartenders, and manicurists. Being social beings, we’ll continue to crave the human interactions that is currently satisfied at work, church, clubs, and school. Perhaps any job where human warmth and touch are preferable to robots might be safe. And I suppose any of the creative arts will become much more valuable when they are produced by actual humans and labeled as such.

I hear there are people considering lives devoid of technology as a lifestyle choice. Some are moving to places to live “off the grid”. Others might start whole communities, much like the Amish, leaving the newest technology behind. It is clear that the future is upon us, and that each of us needs to consider how we will thrive if not simply survive in it.

Egoism, Extortion, Exploitation & Excuses

At the core of our fight to defend decency and democracy is the egoism of a few wealthy white men. Egoism is the morality that places self-interest at the center of everything. These men believe that so long as they are doing what is in their own best interest, then they are doing what is morally right even if it is illegal or detrimental to others. They see themselves as above man-made laws and they have no regard for the wellbeing of others if it conflicts with what feeds, serves, and pleasures them. They thrive on the exploitation of the defenseless, including the earth, animals, natural resources, and people. They believe they deserve placement above everything and everyone else.

I’m convinced that the mentality of humanity is partially to blame for their corrupt mindset. There has always been a part of the human psyche that recognizes, admires, fears, and gives deference to the strongest among us. Humans are often described as sheep in need of leadership. Perhaps the reasons are a combination of laziness or acknowledgment of our own shortcomings. Followers don’t have to think nor take personal responsibility when someone else is calling the shots. So, we have become a society that continually gives deferential treatment to others because of their wealth, celebrity, or position of power. We assume that they deserve to be above us and so we push them to “influence” us. This kind of treatment is dangerously intoxicating and corrupting to those on the receiving end of it.

Over time, this treatment supersizes egos and removes the capacity to empathize while raising the expectation of unfettered loyalty and compliance with their every demand. These egomaniacs, like Trump, begin to view themselves as inherently superior and rightfully deserving of deferential treatment. So, it only follows that they come to view any challenge to their actions as a threat to be tamed if not eliminated. In fact, much of this country was built on this slave-master mentality.

In MAGA we can clearly see how ordinary people have taken this human tendency toward leadership to a whole new level in the United States. They have placed Trump on a pedestal as if he were a “god” or at least God’s chosen one. Based on his wealth, celebrity, and power, they expect him to be stronger than us, smarter than us, and capable of benevolent leadership. Unfortunately for them, the Founders of our country knew that there was no such thing as a human embodiment of purely benevolent leadership, and they sought to create a government “by and for” the people. They started the Revolutionary War to achieve independence from the rulership of a king. The Founders explicitly created three co-equal branches of government to prevent another dictatorship. They understood that absolute power, corrupts absolutely. And yet, they could not foresee that when an egomaniac who is prone to acts of extortion and exploitation and is excused for his bad behavior throughout his entire life is elected president of the United States, the system of checks and balances would begin to collapse. They did not foresee this time of cowardice when the extort-able are extorted. The exploitable are exploited. And the excuse makers keep making their excuses.

This is where we find ourselves. We have a president who has exploited women, contractors, workers, consumers, the courts, the media, and banks for his selfish gain throughout his entire life. He dangles public humiliation, lawsuits, funding, pardons, mergers, and political ruin to extort others to either do his bidding or to silence his detractors. His list of victims grows before our eyes as lawmakers, judges, law firms, media outlets, universities, and others in positions of influence bow before him to either advance their own positions or protect themselves from his cult of loyal followers who believe he is a benevolent leader sent by God to “Make America Great Again”.

The question is whether it will last. Personally, I hope not. Besides being unconstitutional, there is nothing benevolent about Trump nor his intentions. And his leadership has always lacked competence, foresight, and integrity. His oversized ego has led him to behave in ways most decent human beings abhor. And yet, despite all the evidence, his followers excuse his poor behavior as either fake or as a sign of superhuman strength. They like him because he fuels their daydream of a return to a simpler time of white superiority, male domination and prosperity at the expense of women, black and brown people.

I’m hopeful that enough people will finally realize how rotten to the core he is and how his actions are now and have always been immoral. It’s beginning to look like MAGA are having a difficult time squaring pedophilia with benevolent leadership. The cognitive dissonance among his supporters is starting to show. They demanded to see the Epstein Files when they thought it would discredit liberals, but now they dread being confronted by Trump’s involvement with Epstein and the tales of the young women who implicate him. Perhaps the Epstein Files and the testimonies of his young female victims will finally disrupt MAGA loyalty to Trump. I certainly hope so because nothing else has.

The reality is that this country faces a less prosperous future for our children and grandchildren if the Constitution crumbles under the weight of one man’s ego and continued cowardice. So, unless we wake up soon and find a way to stop him, our Constitution, the rule of law and common decency will crumble.

If Our Federal Taxes Don’t Pay for It….

On Friday, my husband and I drove to Ventura to shop at our favorite garden center. On the way, we noticed the missing farm laborers in the many fields we passed, signaling a coming food crisis. Scarcity will lead to a continued rise in food prices. Tariffs will exasperate the situation. What’s heading our way, will not be pleasant for most Americans. But beyond food becoming scarcer and more expensive, we realized that we’ll be expected to pay for other needs and services our federal tax dollars once covered.

The radio was tuned in to KCLU, a public radio station that we rely on for local news, public interest stories, and information. They do a great job reporting during wildfires or other situations that arise in our area. The general manager, a former colleague, came on and informed the listeners that the station would be losing $300,000 in federal funding as part of the government’s cuts to NPR and PBS. She was relying on us, the general public, to increase our donations to fully cover the shortfall so that she didn’t have to lay people off and so that they could continue to deliver the news.

I was livid. KCLU serves a wealthy community, so I know it will survive. But what of rural and poor areas? Many people will lose access to public radio that serves to provide them with important news and information, especially during disasters. The shortsighted decision-making of this president and the Republican led Congress is destroying our country and using our tax dollars to do it. They are funding unnecessary tax breaks for the wealthy, stupid military parades, excessive golf trips for the president, ruthless ICE agents, marines and national guards recking havoc in our streets, building concentration camps, and defending lawsuits against unconstitutional executive orders.

As Congress begins to defund essentials like food stamps for the poor, scientific and medical research, national parks, foreign aid, healthcare, disaster relief, education, infrastructure, and public broadcasting, who is expected to foot the bill for these essentials? Or do we simply allow people to starve to death, to die of treatable and preventable illnesses, to remain unhoused after a natural disaster, to drive on unsafe highways, to be forced out of nursing homes, to lack access to clean air and water, and to forego adequate education?

Perhaps they believe individual states will foot the bills for the needs of their population. Perhaps they believe churches will feed, clothe, and house the impoverished. Perhaps they believe families or friends will care former nursing home patients. Perhaps they believe individuals or corporations will donate to research they care about. Perhaps they believe the public will pay through donations, not taxes, for public broadcasting. Perhaps they believe on the rich deserve to educate their children. Perhaps they believe clean water and clean air are a privilege and not a right. Perhaps they think climate change is a hoax and weather forecasts aren’t necessary. Perhaps they think people will stop rebuilding in disaster prone areas as insurance becomes unavailable (or unaffordable) and FEMA no longer exists. Perhaps they believe that if people have to pay for their own medical bills out of pocket, they will take better care of their health, just remain sick, and the costs will eventually come down.

Whether they are right or wrong about any of this, the reality is that millionaires and billionaires are benefitting most from federal tax breaks. To compensate for the loss of federal dollars, state taxes are likely to increase to cover the cost of just about everything people need or people will start to pay out of pocket for just about everything that used to be part of the “general welfare” like health, research, education, and disaster relief. I’m on the fence about increasing my donations to cover what I believe our tax dollars should cover for the public good. These cuts will push most people into survival mode, not the mindset needed to invest nor innovate. Frankly, I might need those dollars to cover the basics like food, housing, energy, insurance, medical expenses and education for my grandchildren in the coming years as things fall apart.

Right now, California is a donor state. This means that we collect more in federal tax dollars than we get in funding. This past year we donated $83 million. I wish there was a way for us to keep those dollars here in California so that we could better fund our own healthcare, disaster relief, education, research, infrastructure, public broadcasting, and food assistance. If not, then perhaps California could institute a reasonable “wealth tax” to reassign the federal tax savings millionaires and billionaires are getting from the federal government under this Republican Congress. Perhaps the rich will realize that funding these things actually helps keep them safe and in fact grows our collective economy. California is already the fourth largest economy in the world. Let’s keep it that way and do even better.

I have no idea what these poor red states are going to do. And frankly, I only care because they are human beings. But it bothers me that they keep electing Republican lawmakers who cut everything safety net they rely on for survival. It’s shortsighted to believe people won’t revolt when they become desperate enough. They won’t just “get over it” as Mitch McConnell commented about the cuts. Maybe folks in red states believe in this way of doing things. So, I can only hope that it works out for them. But I don’t want to live that way. I prefer that my tax dollars go to promote the general welfare so that we feel secure and innovative enough to create a stronger, healthier, and better future for our children’s children.

Small Acts of Resistance

On my morning walks, I pass a house with a prominently placed law sign that reads, “The power of the people is greater than the people in power.” I’m not only thankful for that reminder but encouraged by it. Human history informs us that oppressed people eventually turn on their oppressors in desperation and they topple those in power.

We’ve seen the pattern where ego-driven dictators, always greedy for admiration, power, and money surround themselves with malicious sadists to do their bidding. Tapping into human insecurity, they manufacture fears and find scapegoats to punish while simultaneously promising security and prosperity to everyone else. History just keeps repeating itself as if these men are reincarnated. Their determination to remain in power amid their inevitable economic and social failures leads them to punish opposing voices with violence, imprisonment, exile, and economic coercion. In the process of strangling freedoms, innovation suffers, the economy suffers, and the most highly educated self-deport. Lacking economic growth and opportunity, the masses find themselves impoverished, sickly, and gaslighted to the point of outright rebellion.

We are not there yet. However, we are clearly on our way. We see signs of our demise in the cabinet appointments that favor loyalty over knowledge and expertise. We see it in the scapegoating of undocumented “brown-skinned” immigrants as criminals, crazy, or job stealers to feed the bigotry of insecure white suprematists. How is it even conceivable that this administration defies the Constitution and yet expects courts to allow it? Or how cruel to cut access to food and healthcare for poor and disabled people to give tax breaks to the wealthy while simultaneously reducing incentives for charitable giving among those same wealthy people? It’s ludicrous to believe that we can cut medical research and still cure diseases. Or that we can pollute the environment and expect to have clear air and water. Or that we can deport experienced farm workers and still plant and harvest enough produce to feed the nation. Or that we can ignore victims of natural disasters and expect them to recover without assistance. Or that we can scare away the best and brightest students and scholars by cutting Pell grants and denying or revoking F-1 visas without losing the competitive innovation that drives progress and economic growth. And only a simpleton thinks imposing tariffs will bring economic prosperity and not economic hardship.

Before we go any further down this road to destruction of our representative democracy, economy, environment, common sense, and even human decency, we must each find and activate our own path to resistance. Mine is writing this weekly blog, having conversations to educate others, making social media posts, writing to lawmakers, and donating to legal funds and resistance groups. I’ve seen actors perform protest skits, singers and songwriters perform protest songs, cartoonist post protest cartoons, marchers protest in the streets, community members record and post brutal ICE raids, journalists quit corporate media and set up their own podcasts, lawyers file lawsuits, priests and pastors defend the gospel in public, democrats make speeches and show up at detention centers, and community organizers organize strategies. Now is still the time for peaceful protest. Every opposition voice is needed in whatever way it is expressed. Sometimes it may just be imparting information to a friend or loved one. Other times, it might be a simple sign on the front lawn. Or it may be refusal to show up at the military parade.

I’ve also seen a kind of silent protest happening in unexpected places. I stopped shopping at Target on February 1st because of their public rollback of DEI following threats from the Trump administration. However, I pick up my prescriptions from the CVS located inside the store and I’ve noticed an absence of people who look like me. What I also noticed over the past few months is an increase in the photos of black and brown people pasted all over the walls and that the black and brown products remain on the shelves. I’ve also noticed that television commercials continue to feature people of color and that television shows and theatre productions have not slowed their production of shows featuring ethnically diverse casts. Demand for children’s books by non-white authors continues to increase. And a great variety of sports are becoming increasingly ethnically diverse.

We defeat the white Christian nationalist agenda when we stubbornly continue to appreciation our diversity, promote equity in our decisions, and simply include folks from different backgrounds in our daily activities. We win when we succeed at our jobs. We win when we thoroughly educate our children on matters of history, civics, and morality in opposition to the educational agenda of white nationalists. We win when we refuse to stop talking about our checkered history and find ways to insist on being better and doing better than those who seek to belittle us. We can turn their hateful actions into teachable moments. The mid-term elections can’t come soon enough to turn this ship around. So, find your resistance voice, whether loud or quiet, and use it every single day.

The Trajectory Looks Scary

This past week I had a heated phone conversation about how wealthy people use their money. It made me stop and think about where we are headed as a nation. It was clear during the conversation that neither of us is against the accumulation of wealth, nor do we begrudge the right of billionaires to spend 50 million dollars to have their wedding in Italy with other uber rich people and celebrities as guests. Our initial disagreement was about the harm caused by the undue influence expenditures of that money in politics can have on our democracy.

Capitalism encourages people to innovate and work hard to achieve personal gratification and wealth. When people and the environment are not overtly exploited by capitalistic endeavors, Americans tend to admire folks like Henry Ford, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, and Warren Buffet. Some of them are philanthropists, giving huge amounts of money to help others. And that’s a good thing, however, a country of free people must never depend solely on the generosity of the wealthy to provide for our general welfare. That is the job of “We the People” according to our Constitution. We elect representatives to direct the taxes we pay to fund policies, projects and programs that support the public good. This is why it is important that each American pay his or her fair share and why cutting taxes for the wealthiest individuals often comes at the expense of cutting the funds that support the public good.

In our conversation, I argued we have created a problem that allows wealthy individuals to use their wealth to exercise extreme influence over our elected representatives so that they no longer have to pay their fair share in taxes, can exploit people and the environment with impunity, and can redirect the allocation of public tax dollars away from supporting the public good. To our detriment, a few extremely wealthy individuals are using their money to influence elections, bribe supreme court judges, and pressure representatives to make laws that suit their personal agenda instead of laws that benefit their constituents.

This is what we have allowed to happen over time with one bad court ruling after another. Our elected representatives are no longer representing “we the people” as set forth in our Constitution. They are instead representing the interest of the corporations and wealthy individuals who finance their campaigns, offer lavish gifts, and steer them towards profitable investments in return for passing laws that benefit their benefactors.

This “Big Beautiful Bill” that just passed is a prime example of how our elected Republican officials failed to represent the people in their districts in their pursuit of life, liberty and happiness. Their express job is to pass laws on behalf of “we the people”. Instead, they passed a bill that will cut taxes for the wealthy while devastating the lives of the most vulnerable people in their districts and increase funding for cruel ICE deportations. Most workers will not benefit from the no tax on their tips provision because of the requirement to itemize deductions. Budget laws that allocate our tax dollars are supposed to provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty for us and our posterity. That is how our representative democracy was set forth in the Constitution.

At this point, I think it will be helpful to define a few key words that are being bantered around these days.

Autocracy and authoritarianism – government in which one person has unlimited authority.

Aristocracy – government by a privileged upper class who are regarded as superior.

Communism – a system of social organization in which all economic and social activity is controlled by a totalitarian state.

Democracy – government in which supreme power is exercised directly by the people or their elected representatives. A state of society characterized by formal equality of rights and privileges.

Egalitarian – the belief in the equality of all people.

Fascism – a totalitarian governmental system led by a dictator and emphasizing aggressive nationalism, militarism, and racism.

Feudalism – a medieval European system of social and economic organization based on estate ownership of land and the resulting relations between lord and vassal.

Nationalism – devotion to one’s nation; patriotism.

Oligarchy – a government run by members of a dominate clique.

Socialism – a system of social organization in which the means of production and distribution of goods are owned and controlled collectively or by the government.

Totalitarianism – a government in which one party exercises dictatorial control.

I thought deeply this Fourth of July week about the founding and trajectory of this nation. I considered the history of our nation: its aspirations, its present state, and where it is headed. We must never forget that the Fourth of July is a celebration of revolution against rule by an authoritarian king and its feudal system of aristocrats. The Founders were determined to replace that system with a representative democracy. It’s important to understand that our founders came from European countries (specifically Great Britian), ruled by kings who appointed aristocrats, gifting them land and governance over those living on their lands. They were oppressed by the authoritarian king and decided to fight for independence.

Once free, our founders were determined to establish a more egalitarian society ruled by the will of the people, not a king nor his aristocrats. Mind you, they themselves were products of the world in which they lived. They were the aristocrats of the new world. They were white educated wealthy landowners who had indentured servants and owned slaves. Their wives were their property who had no property rights nor social rights of their own. The egalitarian ideas they pinned in the Constitution were aspirational in nature. The notion that “all men are created equal” was not a part of their social upbringing nor their lived experience up to that point. But they pointed our country in the direction of greater equality, liberty, and justice for everyone.

Over the years, we have put in the work (including a civil war and multiple protest movements) to progress towards a more perfect union where the egalitarian and democratic aspirations set forth in our Constitution were on the edge of being fully realized. We stopped killing native Americans and forcing re-education on their children. Women gained the right to vote, to own property, to work, to get credit and bank accounts in their own name, and they gained bodily autonomy. Black slaves were set free, and people of color gained the right to be citizens, to vote, to expect equal access to opportunities, and were moving towards equal justice under the law. LGBTQ folks were able to come out of the closet without being jailed and even gained the right to get married like everyone else. This was progress toward equality and justice for all. We finally celebrated our diversity, expected equity as fairness, and pushed for greater inclusion in all aspects of society. We even elected a black president. But not everyone was happy.

A sinister backlash emerged from just beneath the surface. It began as a whisper and under Trump’s leadership it has become loud, cruel, brutal, and overtly violent. It was fueled by lies, insecurity, bigotry, and a visceral need to permanently re-secure both power and money in the hands of white men. A few wealthy white men whose European forefathers had written the aspirational words of the Constitution have turned against those ideas. We find ourselves in a situation where a few very rich white men have funded and enticed white “Christian” politicians to say what was necessary to be elected so that they could then disavow their oath to the Constitution and ignore their constituents.

The Republicans today are by definition fascists. They strive to embody the definition of totalitarian rule wherein their Party exercises dictatorial control. They uphold the ridicious executive orders of Trump. Their particular brand of nationalism is characterized by whiteness and “Christianity”, and they villainize anyone who is not white, Christian, or heterosexual. They call those who are against them “communist and socialists”, but they are the ones who are creating a system (much like the one in China) in which all economic and social activity is controlled by them, the totalitarian state. Think about that. They are actively trying to control women’s bodies, the media, private industry, journalism, education, people’s sex lives, information, scientific research, and books in the same way the Chinese Communist Party and the Taliban do.

The Republicans applaud Trump as their front man, cheering him on as he destroys any expectation that our Constitution is to be followed and that we are in any way egalitarian. Republicans are working hard to destroy the established value in diversity, equity and inclusion so that they can return to the myth of white male superiority. They are paving the way for a return aristocratic rule where members of the ruling class both in government and across all industry are straight white males. While Trump has dreams of being a dictator (like a king) with his gold toilet and his cronies praising his every cruel action and stupid comment as brilliant, Republicans abandon the rule of law and the Constitution itself while holding an American flag in one hand and a Bible in the other. They ignore the teachings of Christ and pray loudly in public like the pharisees Jesus condemned for their hypocrisy. They ignore freedom of religion in favor of establishing a “Christian” state that has nothing to do with Christianity, but everything to do with white supremacy through oppressive laws backed by brutality.

Independence Day was this past Friday. I didn’t celebrate. Instead, I reflected on who we are and where we should be headed. I, for one, will not silently return to the days when women, people of color, and LGBTQ folks are simply vassals to wealthy white men. Let’s hope our protests will be enough, but if not, I suspect a second revolution is in our future.

Forsaken Oaths

Every public official, including federal workers, military personnel, and elected officials up to the vice president, swear an oath to the Constitution of the United States. The oath is required by our Constitution and is found in Article VI, Clause 3. Their oath is a solemn promise that reads, “I do solemnly swear (or affirm) that I will support and defend the Constitution of the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic; that I will bear true faith and allegiance to the same; that I take this obligation freely, without any mental reservation or purpose of evasion; and that I will well and faithfully discharge the duties of the office on which I am about to enter. So help me God.”

The president takes a slightly different oath that reads, “I do solemnly swear (or affirm) that I will faithfully execute the Office of President of the United States, and will to the best of my ability, preserve, protect and defend the Constitution of the United States.”

What we are collectively witnessing today are Republican public officials, including Supreme Court judges, forsaking their oath in favor of allegiance (or at least silence) to President Trump’s assault on our Constitution, especially our basic rights and the rule of law spelled out in it. Specifically, they are empowering and enabling him to strip away our Constitutional protections such as birthright citizenship, free speech, the right to assemble, the right to choose our own path to happiness, equal rights under the law, a free press, and due process. I find it alarming that they are blatantly ignoring the entire purpose upon which our country and its Constitution was established.

Our Constitution begins with “We the people” (not a monarch) are responsible for creating a more perfect union wherein we establish justice, ensure domestic tranquility, provide for our common defense and promote the general welfare and ensure the blessings of liberty for ourselves and our future generations. We do this by electing representatives to pass laws, confirm federal judges and high-level public officials, and to keep the executive branch in check on our behalf. Sadly, we elected a Republican majority who are using the fact of their narrow election win (based on false pretenses) to forsake the Constitution and their oath to protect and defend it.

I watched in horror as Senator Mitch McConnell ignored the pleads of young activists to have a conversation with them about their concerns. He refused to even look at them as he hightailed it to an elevator. Most Republican representatives are refusing to face their constituents at Town Hall meetings because they don’t want to hear people voicing their anger over their betrayal of their oath to the Constitution and their refusal to hold Trump accountable for blatant violations. Republican representatives are clearly not representing “we the people”. They are in lock step with the President, pursuing the interests and agenda of white Christian nationalists and wealthy campaign donors.

It’s become obvious that they will allow Trump to declare himself king as he violates the Constitution, enacts cruel policies, and enriches himself. Their collective strategy is to erode the Constitution along with the systematic silencing of any who may attempt to stand up for it. They use their megaphones on Fox News and social media platforms along with insults and lawsuits to silence journalists. They coerce oppositional law firms by cutting off their access to government buildings. They defund intellectual centers that provide scientific research if they refuse to promote their white nationalist agenda in their classrooms. They fire any government employees who insist on upholding the value of “liberty and justice for all” otherwise known as DEI. And they make a spectacle of arresting vocal citizens and lawmakers using humiliating brutal force when challenged.

Unfortunately, they have a majority on the Supreme Court thanks to the unethical maneuverings of Senator Mitch McConnell. It’s the same Court that ruled that Donald Trump could break the law so long as he is acting in his official capacity as president. So much for the long-held view of the Founders that no one is above the law. Now the president is. This past week, they voted 6 to 3 to disallow federal judges to issue nationwide bans on clearly unconstitutional executive orders. They expect “we the people” to sue for our individual constitutional rights if they are violated by executive orders. In other words, if our Constitutionally guaranteed rights are violated by executive order, it is up to us to file a class action lawsuit to insist upon restoring them. Their decision left Trump’s unconstitutional ban on birthright citizenship in place in those states that haven’t challenged it. Imagine a child being born “state-less” unless his parents have the ability to sue for his or her citizenship. Many class action lawsuits are in our immediate future. In fact, some were filed (or amended) within hours of this Supreme Court ruling. This past ruling is no less ridiculous that their ruling that the immigrants who were illegally arrested and deported without a hearing have to sue for their due process rights. In other words, our Constitutional rights are no longer guaranteed, but up for debate if we have the time and money to insist upon them in court.

These are dangerous times for Americans who don’t fit the white nationalist’s agenda or who are not independently wealthy. The Republicans are working to enshrine a two-class system where people will fall into one of two categories: low wage earners, uneducated, chronically ill, beholden to the generosity of others, subjected to a military draft, and with unprotected Constitutional rights. The other category are the wealthy. These folks have no limits on their accumulation of wealth even if it means destroying the earth in the process. They protect their Constitutional rights because they have the financial means to do so. They can buy healthcare, education, and clean up after natural disasters. They can buy their way out of military service by sending their kids to private school and they can purchase expensive bunkers to protect them from any bombs that may fall. They will have the time and means to vote in elections.

I’m convinced that Republicans believe that discriminating against certain people will lead to their desired class systems. Their policies are designed to maintain or propel ambitious white Christian men to economic wealth with all the political and social power in the country. As seen by the cabinet picks, qualifications don’t matter; whiteness and loyalty do. They want white women to return to white men as their domestic servants in exchange for economic and social protection. They want to enact legal discrimination to eventually force people of color, religious minorities, and LGBTQ folks into a permanent underclass without civil rights, wallowing in untreated illnesses, poor living conditions, lack of education, subject to over-policing and prison slave labor, and perpetually desperate to earn poverty wages to at least exist. And they want LGBTQ folks to simply disappear.

The problem is that white male superiority is a myth. They aren’t now nor have they ever been the smartest, the most talented, the most courageous, the most innovative, nor the most driven. White Christian nationalists lack an understanding that human traits are spread across the human race without regard for color or gender. What those white men in the past possessed was access to weapons and a willingness to use them against others to force their will upon them. They lacked empathy, decency, and foresight. Their perverted thinking only led to endless wars, bloodshed, and human suffering.

The White Christian nationalists in our government are no different from the Taliban who are forcing their perverted religious will upon an entire population through violence. But notice how their country is unable to prosper. When you silence the intelligent, the talented, the innovative, and the driven within your population, you not only make people miserable, but you make prosperity impossible to achieve. The same will be true of these white Christian nationalists. They will destroy this nation and many lives if we allow it.

Today, I call upon my readers to join me in financially investing in one or more of the law organizations working to stand up for our Constitution and our individual Constitutional rights. These include the NAACP Legal Defense Fund, the ACLU, Public Citizen Litigation Group, Lambda Legal , Democracy Defenders Fund, The Institute for Constitutional Advocacy and Protection at Georgetown University, and Democracy Forward.

In addition, it is important to never agree in advance to give up our rights or to subject ourselves to a king. Support the “No Kings 2.0” protest on July 4th organized by local chapters of Indivisible by promoting it, donating to it (I do this), helping to organize, or taking to the streets. There is also a “Free America” event organized by Women’s March on the weekend of the Fourth of July and a “Good Trouble Lives On” scheduled for July 17th. We are in this together and we must act as “we the people” to protect and defend our Constitution on Independence Day 2025 and beyond.

The 80/20 Rule

I spent most of June 14th watching the live feed on YouTube and Instagram of the “No Kings Day Protest” from the comfort of my sofa. I listened to multiple speeches and read a great number of signs. I nodded approval of those who went the extra mile to create clever posters and costumes for the protests. About 5-6 million people showed up to approximately 2200 protests across the country. And one brave soul was a woman in my senior center knitting group (an 80+ Latina immigrant from South America). She marched in protest that day against her son’s advice. Everyone else in the group agreed with the need to protest but didn’t go, including me. But that was expected.

Notably absent from the crowds were black faces, although there were a few charismatic black speakers. I explained to my group that I was tempted to go, but I had made a commitment not to. I explained that I identify with the 97% of black women who supported and voted for Kamala and did our best to warn the country of the impending danger of voting for Trump. The election forced us to realize that this conflict had to be fought among white and brown people who had yet to decide among themselves the difference between right and wrong. I explained that a large black presence could be counterproductive. The country is desensitized to our protests. And most importantly, the opposition would be relieved to see black people put their bodies on the line so that they could unleash a violent response without restraint. Our absence gives members of law enforcement pause and makes the protests somewhat safer. So, I didn’t go and won’t be attending these protests in person. I will promote them, watch them, and applaud them from the sidelines. I’ve even considered making signs to hand out to would-be protesters, like my white male neighbor who wanted to go protest but didn’t make it. Two of his siblings did though.

But what of the remaining women in my knitting group? Granted they are all elderly women, but all of them are still physically able-bodied. The situation reminds me of the 80/20 rule wherein twenty percent of the people complete eighty percent of the work in any given project. The eighty percent could be lazy, distracted, apathetic, disinterested or simply cautious. I don’t know why my neighbor didn’t protest that day (he’s certainly knowledgeable and passionate) but I think most of the women in my knitting group were rightly cautious. They knew about the protest and agreed with it but were too afraid to go. I understand that crowds can be scary, particularly for elderly women who fear falling, a lack of access to a restroom, and an inability to run away should things turn violent. I understand the “better safe than sorry” mindset that comes with age. So, I give them a pass. I give black people a pass. I also give babies and pregnant women a pass.

But the rest of America should consider protesting in the streets if they disapprove of the kidnappings, the incompetence, the reckless firings, the indecency, the lawlessness, the corruption, the tariffs, the book bans, the demonizing of educators, researchers, LGBTQ folks, immigrants, and scientists, the defunding of safety nets like Medicaid, food stamps, and FEMA, the bullying of law firms, universities, and news networks, the destruction of reproductive rights, the removal of environmental protections, the attacks on voting rights, and the rise of white supremacy accompanied by legal discrimination and the erasure of history.

I am a firm believer in the saying that “silence is consent”. In a nation of 350 million people, there aren’t yet enough people using their voice in opposition to this Administration. Silent opposition will not do. Complaining at the dinner table isn’t enough. Action is called for. I get that there are Trump cultists, racists, white suprematists, sociopaths, and sadists who genuinely enjoy watching the chaos, destruction, and pain of others. But I believe they make up a small minority. The latest polls indicate that Trump has a 40% approval rating. As I said to visiting neighbors just last night, I believe a good portion of those people are unaware of what is actually happening. Our neighbor’s wife cited personal encounters with people who watched Fox News and thought everything was great. We developed a strategy for disabusing them of that idea without offending them. Our idea was to share Fox’s own defense in their lawsuit for lying to their viewers about the 2020 election. They themselves claimed that they aren’t news, but entertainment. Even so, that’s still roughly 140 million people who won’t be protesting in the streets against this Administration.

We can add to that number Americans over the age of 75. They make up 7% of the population, so that’s about 25 million. Black people make up 13% of the population in the U.S. so that’s another 45 million people. Children, eleven years and younger account for about 46 million people.

That leaves a pool of 94 million people who can potentially demand a restoration of our democracy, decency, and the rule of law in street protests. The good news is that Robert Reich, a prominent professor of economics (and former Secretary of Labor), cited a study in his Saturday podcast, “The Coffee Klatch” that it only takes 3.5% of a population rising in opposition to bring down an authoritarian regime. In the U.S., that’s roughly 12 million people if you count everyone, including children. We are almost halfway there.

Thankfully, we have another opportunity to reclaim our country if enough Americans take to the streets at the “No Kings 2.0” protest on July 4th. Let’s actually earn our barbecue and fireworks this Independence Day.

For the next few weeks, our collective job is to raise awareness about the “peaceful” protest and need for protest, remove obstacles to protesting, help with logistics, become an organizer, and build up the courage to protest, if not in ourselves, in the hearts and minds of our friends and family. Let’s save our nation and its people from the horrors ahead if we do nothing. In addition to peaceful marchers in protest, I’m happy to see the cartoonists, the musicians and singers, the actors, the activists, the podcasters, the organizers, the citizen journalists, and the writers (like me) doing their part to express opposition. I’m even grateful for the table complainers (like my husband) who simply strengthen the resolve of those willing to take action. I’m optimistic that we can save our nation if just 20 percent of us are willing to do some real work.

Speaking of Fathers….

I rarely talk about my father. If you’ve been reading my blog for a long time, you might recall my accounts of his horrific spousal abuse, our night terrors and quick escapes, my parent’s multiple attempts at marriage reconciliation, his lifelong struggle with alcoholism and his slow death by stroke at the age of 54. I was 29 years old, married with 3 young children when he died. Unlike my mother’s huge funeral, only a few showed up to mourn him. The song I selected to sum up his life was “I Did It My Way” by Frank Sinatra.

But there was another side to my father. His name was Lionel Jerome Ball. My mother called him, “Romey”. Like my mother, he was born in Mississippi, both raised in Detroit, Michigan. He came from a large well-to-do family. He grew up as a middle sibling among six children (five boys and one girl). He lost his mother to stroke at the breakfast table during his teens and later had two stepmothers. He was known to be a brilliant young man with a genius level IQ. But he was complicated. For example, he was both an honor student and a gang leader. He owned a bowling alley when he was just 15 years old. Being brilliant and ambitious as a black man in those days couldn’t have been easy.

He grew up to become a successful tax accountant with a law degree who helped many black businesses in Los Angeles get their start. He was tall, movie-star handsome, and very charming during my early childhood. His father was one of the personal bodyguards of Henry Ford and Ford paid for the college education of each of the six siblings (as well as our diapers from the factory floor) when we were babies. It was during college that my father became a member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc. My mother was a graceful, pretty, smart, and musically talented little sis to the fraternity and they fell in love. For whatever reason, they eloped instead of having a fancy wedding that I’m certain my mother would have enjoyed. They did have a fancy reception and an announcement on the black society pages to satisfy my grandparents (on both sides).

My parents had three children in quick succession (we are each only one year apart). My father made no attempt to hide the fact that I as the youngest and only girl was his favorite. He often bragged that I was the one he gave birth to because he called from law school the moment I was born. I recall being carried around to his business associates in fancy clothes as some kind of show piece. I hated the forced kisses to stranger’s cheeks. Both my parents were extroverts who I now realize had no clue how excruciating their lifestyle of social events and parties along with the endless introductions and forced affections were to an introvert.

But there were plenty of good times with my dad. He would take us to Mexico shop, watch bull fights or dog races. We’d head to Las Vegas on a whim where he’d pay the bar maid to allow us to stay on the casino floor to watch. We’d go to horse races and bet on horses, always letting us keep any winnings. We’d enjoy all kinds of restaurants. We’d have entertaining nights at home with dance competitions. Occasionally, he’d bring home candy bars, just because he wanted to surprise us with a treat. Despite everything that was great or horrifying in my parent’s relationship, I always felt the support, unconditional love, and pride of both my parents towards me even when their next breakup thrust my mother and us kids into an impoverished existence crammed into a motel, a small apartment, or living with a relative. Too escape poverty, my mother even remarried the year I turned seven. But the man was abusive to my brothers and my dad had to rescue us. During that drama, I was sent to my grandparents in Detroit for the entire summer. When I returned, we were living with my father again in his big, beautiful house with the backyard swimming pool. Predictably, their reconciliation didn’t last. I don’t think he ever forgave or trusted her for marrying another man. But they kept on trying.

I was 16 years old when my parents tried their final reconciliation. I was furious at my mother for exposing us again to his terrorism. At the height of my rebellion, I refused to make my father lemonade and he in turn attempted to strike me with a horse whip (of all things). He was too hung over to prevent me from yanking the whip out of his hands and asking, “Who has the whip now?” I didn’t hit him, but I left the house for several hours. Shortly after that incident they separated for the final time. I was relieved that my sleepless nights were finally over. Months later, I gained the strength to tell my father how his alcoholism and violence towards my mother hurt me and our entire family. He made no excuses. He didn’t even apologize. In fact, he made it clear to me that he wasn’t going to stop drinking. I told him that I forgave him anyway because I loved him. But I also set up a boundary around myself that he could never be in my presence if he had been drinking.

That is how we got along. He walked me down the isle of my marriage sober. He visited with my three children sober. We had long conversations. He gave me sound financial, career and business advice. Our relationship was solid. He and my mother remained friends, so much so that she nursed him back to health after his girlfriend poured scalding water on him in his sleep after he beat her. He went on to abuse many women over the years and I hated that about him. I once went to visit him at his home in Los Angeles only to witness an ambulance carrying away the dead body of his then girlfriend. Her teenage daughter, about my age, whispered to me that my father was responsible. I immediately apologized because given his track record and his attempts on my mother, I didn’t doubt it. But both of us knew that the Los Angeles Police cared very little about domestic abuse and even less about the death of a black woman.

Some years later, on Mother’s Day (which was also my mother’s birthday that year) he had a stroke while working in his office. He never woke up from his coma.

I happened to be a stay-at-home mom at the time, so I drove an hour and a half every day from Simi Valley to Hawthorne to visit him while the kids were in school. The nurse assured me that his vitals improved while I was there and so I just kept going to sit with him and talk. I was his only visitor aside from my mother’s occasional visit and that saddened me, but did not surprise me. It had been the same when he was hospitalized for a bleeding ulcer. His alcoholism had not only destroyed his health and taken away his driving privileges but had alienated many people.

Our annual vacation was the third week of June, and he was still lingering in the hospital. He was terminal and they were about to move him to a hospice care nursing facility. Even though children were not allowed on the ward, on the day we were heading to San Diego for our family vacation, I was determined to give my children the opportunity to say goodbye to their grandfather whom they had only known as kind, funny, generous and good natured. The nurse saw me with my husband and our three kids and chose to ignore us. The kids kissed him and hugged him in his unconscious state. I told him I loved him and that we were going away for a week.

Midway through our vacation, I had a very vivid dream that I was in my father’s hospital room. My parents were sitting on the edge of the bed having a lively conversation. I was in shock. He looked great. His foot that was about to be amputated, was fine. My parents were in such great spirits, and I was flabbergasted, asking them how this was even possible given that he was about to be moved to nursing hospice care. I woke up with my heart racing and reminded myself that he was still in the hospital terminally ill. Within minutes, the phone rang. It was about 6am.

My mother called to inform me that my father had passed away overnight. I told her about my dream. She didn’t say anything. In retrospect, perhaps that dream was a premonition because less than five years later, she was gone too.

On this Father’s Day, I wish everyone peace and a willingness to acknowledge that not every father is perfect. We are all flawed human beings. Granted, some are more flawed than others and I think my father fits that category. But even at his worst and most violent depraved moments, I was able to recognize his love and devotion to me as his daughter. He honored my boundaries. And for all that I am grateful. Happy Father’s Day.

Letter to Republican U.S. Senators

I spent my Saturday morning drafting the letter below and then emailing it to every Republican senator. A few limited the word count, so I had to cut a few things, but most received this letter in its entirety. I share it with you hoping that you will be inspired to send your own email to Republican senators or to make your support for our nation and its constitution and laws known. Don’t allow your silence to become consent.

Letter:

Sleeping is difficult these days. I find myself waking up filled with anxiety, outrage, or sadness over our country’s turn away from creating a more perfect union where liberty and justice for all is an actual aspiration. I miss the country where I believed that our elected officials were decent people working to establish justice, ensure domestic tranquility, provide for our common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty for ourselves and our future children.

Instead, I am greeted each day with human beings being grabbed off the streets and forcibly detained based on the color of their skin and the language they speak. I am greeted by stupid if not unconstitutional executive orders of a president who uses foul and false accusations against immigrants, journalists, judges, teachers, prosecutors, scientists, women, transgender people, and his political enemies. The constant lying, blatant corruption, ridiculous appointments, and unjustified attacks on law firms, universities, and diversity, equity, and inclusion frustrates me to no end.

To these horrific actions coming from our White House, most of you elected officials either remain silent and too many of you are complicit. The Congress is a co-equal branch of government, but you have collectively abdicated your duty under Republican rule. The American people voted for greater safety, an end to wars, and real problem solving, even if some of the threats, underlying war issues, and problems were fabricated and misrepresented by Trump, conservative podcasters, and Fox News. People voted for false promises to address fabricated fears. People groomed to be afraid of immigrants, people of color, and trans people voted for protection. People deceived into believing that scientists are wasting their money on “transgender mice” and lying to them about vaccines and climate voted to end waste, fraud and abuse. People convinced that diversity, equity, and inclusion are the reason for their failure to get ahead voted for a false merit-based system that is nothing more than white male cronyism. Republican representatives failed to demand that their presidential candidate be worthy of the office.

The fact is that no one voted for a tariff war with the entire world that is harming businesses and raising prices. No one voted for hard working (non-criminal) mothers, fathers, and children to be disappeared off the streets because they look to be immigrants. No one voted for government workers to be sloppily fired without understanding their contribution, due cause, nor due process. No one voted to defund medical and scientific research that address human challenges. No one voted to have the safety net pulled from under the feet of the most vulnerable so that the wealthiest among us could save a few more tax dollars. No one voted to erase history, destroy public education, and roll back consumer protections. No one voted to subject themselves to climate change disasters without relief. No one voted to pardon actual criminals who did real harm. No one voted to dismantle the protections of our public health, our food, our drinkable water, and clean air. No one voted for the reverse brain-drain among students, scholars, and researchers at our universities. No one voted to destroy the tourism industry by terrorizing tourists. And certainly, no one voted to waste our tax-payer dollars on a military parade to inflate one man’s ego.

While I still have a Constitutional right to petition government, I request that you find the courage and the moral compass to reject the unconstitutional and immoral actions of President Trump. It is not enough to complain behind closed doors about actions you know are harmful to the American people and to the world. You must stand up for those who voted for you, not cower before a bully who proves every day that he wishes we were North Korea.

I want my government to work as the founders intended. Therefore, I ask that you stop this “Big Beautiful Bill” and provide us with a bill that taxes people and corporations fairly in order to pay for our priorities. As a citizen, I want you to ensure funding for an ongoing safety net for vulnerable people, to upgrade our infrastructure, to fully fund FEMA, to protect and fund medical and scientific research, to end the tariff war, to protect the rights and civil liberties of every American, to fund public education and job training, to address the broken immigration system and provide adequate temporary work visas, to safeguard public health, to protect law firms and universities from frivolous attacks, to protect our elections from billionaire influence moving forward, and to conduct oversight over the executive branch.

Like most Americans, I know this country isn’t perfect. But we can and should do better. Investing in the American people is investing in our future prosperity. Right now, we are moving in a dangerous direction, toward increasing public corruption, poorer health outcomes, indecency, ignorance, and the loss of basic civil rights. Please save us from this daily nightmare!